One of my friends used to say that there’s no such thing as “very” pregnant. You’re either pregnant or you aren’t. Polyamory feels similar – you’re either polyamorous or you aren’t, right? And yet, there are some situations when I stop and think, “This is very polyamorous of us.” Then I usually laugh, because it’s either silly or heartwarming or …
If you’ve practiced polyamory or ethical non-monogamy for any period of time, you’ve probably wondered just how tangled your situation really is – especially as your polycule and polyamorous community grows. Are you in a triad, a square, or a polyhedron? How far do your polycule’s branches extend and where do they reconnect? Depending on how far you’ve let your …
Recently, I went to a social gathering at a friend’s house. When it comes to this circle of friends, my partner Ron and I usually drive to events together. This time around, Ron was out of town. So I asked my partner Cary for a ride since he was also going and my place was on the way. He responded …
I started my polyamorous life in my late twenties, soon after I moved to Los Angeles in 2014. Until that point, I’d always subscribed to a classically heteronormative lifestyle. I’d been unquestioningly monogamous with just two partners my entire life – a husband together for eight years followed by a boyfriend I dated for about a year after my divorce. …
Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can open up your world to new relationships, new experiences, and new forms of love and connection. But just like anything else, the lifestyle can come with some… annoying pet peeves. I’m not talking about the real challenges that come with polyamory – learning to communicate better, processing your feelings, dealing with …