Our headlights extended over the dusty flats, a dry, cracked plain where even shrubbery refused to grow. A soft breeze filled the car as he stopped the engine and rolled down the windows. Darkness poured into the cabin as the air settled around us, the desert quickly forgetting our intrusion. “Do you have any more questions?” he asked. I ran …
Content warning: This article covers my experiences with anorexia. If you’ve been affected by disordered eating, consider reaching out to therapists who specialize in treating eating disorders or finding a support group through ANAD or these resources. Six months ago, I spent an entire pole dancing class fantasizing about meat – the smell and taste of beef, a big bite …
One of my friends used to say that there’s no such thing as “very” pregnant. You’re either pregnant or you aren’t. Polyamory feels similar – you’re either polyamorous or you aren’t, right? And yet, there are some situations when I stop and think, “This is very polyamorous of us.” Then I usually laugh, because it’s either silly or heartwarming or …
It’s been over 3 years since I wrote my first curly hair post. Since then, my hair has generally done well. But about a year ago, my curls started having more days feeling limp and weighed down. I started using a chelating shampoo once per week since that seemed to give me the best results, but that ended up amping …
If you’ve practiced polyamory or ethical non-monogamy for any period of time, you’ve probably wondered just how tangled your situation really is – especially as your polycule and polyamorous community grows. Are you in a triad, a square, or a polyhedron? How far do your polycule’s branches extend and where do they reconnect? Depending on how far you’ve let your …
The day was waning by the time I reached the cabin in the woods, about a mile’s hike from where the trees got too thick to drive any farther. I’d come prepared, climbing the hill and trekking down around the lip of the valley with my trusty worn boots and my pack bundled high on my back. The effort got …
Recently, I went to a social gathering at a friend’s house. When it comes to this circle of friends, my partner Ron and I usually drive to events together. This time around, Ron was out of town. So I asked my partner Cary for a ride since he was also going and my place was on the way. He responded …
“You really come prepared,” he said as I stabbed a tent stake into the sand. He loitered in his flip-flops, looking unsure of what to do with himself despite nailing the beach day look. Over his trunks, he wore a crisp white shirt that fluttered in the wind, allowing peekaboo glimpses of his skin, glistening with a hint of sweat …
I started my polyamorous life in my late twenties, soon after I moved to Los Angeles in 2014. Until that point, I’d always subscribed to a classically heteronormative lifestyle. I’d been unquestioningly monogamous with just two partners my entire life – a husband together for eight years followed by a boyfriend I dated for about a year after my divorce. …
Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) can open up your world to new relationships, new experiences, and new forms of love and connection. But just like anything else, the lifestyle can come with some… annoying pet peeves. I’m not talking about the real challenges that come with polyamory – learning to communicate better, processing your feelings, dealing with …